NameMarilyn Gertrude AVERY 281
Birth Date19 Aug 1948
Birth PlaceTacoma, Pierce Co., WA, USA
Birth MemoTacoma General Hospital
Death Date26 Feb 2009 Age: 60
Death PlaceFederal Way, King Co., WA, USA
Burial Date2 Mar 2009
Burial PlaceMountain View Cemetery, Auburn, King Co., WA, USA
Burial MemoYahn & Son Funeral Home, Auburn, WA
EducationFederal Way High School (1966)
OccupationHome Daycare Operator
Cause of DeathSeptic Shock or Sepsious 282
Misc. Notes
MARILYN A. BRYNER Age 60 passed away 2/26/09. She was born on 8/19/1948. She is survived by her husband Clyde; sons, Steven Bonholzer and David Bryner; daughters, Julie Mills, Emily Terry, Heidi Tutton, Julie Bryner, Sara Matheson and Kathleen Bryner; sisters, Sandy Williams, Connie Fidler, Patty Sullivan, Dianne Osborne and Janice Eakin; parents, Bill and Margaret Avery and 12 grandchildren. Funeral Service will be on Monday, 3/2/09 at 11am with viewing 1 hour prior at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 841 S. 308th St., Federal Way, 98003. For complete obituary please visit www.yahnandson.com.

Published in the News Tribune (Tacoma) on 3/1/2009

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Marilyn Gertrude Avery Bryner

Born - Tacoma General Hospital August 19, 1948 to William and Margaret Avery

Growing up as a youth she lived in various places around the Federal Way area. Before her Junior year in High School her parents moved to Federal Way where she attended Federal Way High School and graduated in June of 1966.

During her High School years she developed complications from Mononucleosis and had to spend a lot of time in the hospital and spent most of her Junior year at home. One of the things she has a vivid memory of and writes about in her life history is that she will never forget the sacrifices that her parents made during that time. She remembers that her parents were always there with her when she was in the hospital. They would read or just watch T.V. while she would lay there just so she wouldn't be alone. She talked about her father coming to the hospital on his lunch breaks just to ask her if she was being treated O.K. She says she never really appreciated that until she had children of her own, and she loves them deeply for always being there for her. She carried on what she had learned from her parents as she made sacrifices in her own life for her kids.

She tells a funny story as she had a couple of boy friends in H.S. The boys went to 2 different H.S. and they didn't know about one another, and one time when she woke up from one of her surgeries she had one boyfriend at her head and one at her feet, her dad said she just closed her eyes and stayed that way, I guess untill they were probably gone. This was the first time the boys had met.

After H.S. and after she had her health back she attended Knapp business college in Tacoma where she learned various skills to prepare for the future. The next year she moved to Provo, Ut and got a job working for the Church Geneology Dept. She had fond memories of the time in Provo, where she spent time with friends, cruising Center Street, and having pizza parites at Heaps Pizza.

On June 21, 1968 she married James R. Bonholzer (the boyfriend at the head)

They were blessed with 3 children

Julie - Nov 4, 1969

Steven- Feb 10, 1971

Heidi- March 12, 1975

They resided in Federal Way for awhile, and then moved to Eastern Wa. to work for Jim’s dad who owned drive-in movie theaters. Mom would help out in the snack bar or wherever she was needed. She was always a big help in whatever she would do. As a little boy I remember she would be so excited when her parents or one or all of her sisters were coming to town to visit. She loved it when family would visit.

In 1983 they decided to move on from the theater business and move back to Federal Way. She was so excited to move back closer to her family and be around her parents and sisters. Marilyn started a daycare business, and was introduced to Clyde Bryner who had five children who just lost their mother to cancer. She started watching them but just last week she jokingly told her daughter that Clyde didn't pay her near enough to watch five kids. As a newly single Father, he wasn't familiar with the cost of childcare---but Marilyn didn't care--she watched and loved his kids regardless.

She states in her life history a very important point. "Never take this life for granted"

In 1983 after many years of being a devoted wife, her husband Jim (Dad) was killed in an automobile accident. This was devastating to all. Mom and us kids were so appreciative of all the love and support of family and friends. Mom however was a very strong women and held us all together through this tough time.

She had a good friend to lean on in this time of sorrow and that was Clyde. He was a big help in helping my mom through this devastating loss, as he had just lost his wife the previous year. My mother states in her history that she had already fallen in love with his children and Clyde as a friend. With all of Clyde’s love and support that friendship turned into love and without telling all the mushy stuff they got engaged and ended up getting married.

My mother married Clyde Ray Bryner on August 20, 1983 in the Seattle Temple. This point in my mothers life was a huge change as she now had five new children, Emily, Sara, a new Julie who we all called “L-J,” Katie, and David all added to her previous three. A total of eight children to love and care for. If there was one person who could do this on this earth [it] was my mother. She worked so hard in trying to get the families to blend together, trying to deal with the kids painful memories of one side losing their mother, and the other side dealing with losing their father, along with Clyde and Marilyn recently losing their spouses. She often told me that it was really hard but somehow she made it through. This is how strong, compassionate and loving my mother was. She would make anything work. I know she couldn't do this alone, she had Clyde and he was a big help, but so often I would see her praying to her Heavenly Father asking for strength and guidance in this most challenging time.

Through the years the kids all grew up, all of us going through changes, and trials of our own, but Mom was there for us all. Picking us up when we fell, and giving us encouragement to go on, watching us fall again, then picking us up again, and giving us more encouragement. Then if we fell again she would kick us in the behind, then give us more encouragement. She would never, ever give up on any of her family. She showed unconditional love and would expect us ALL to do the same for her family and our own. She never gave up hope on any of us, and has taught us to do the same.

As time passed five of her children have gotten married and have spouses of their own. She was able to attend all the weddings and is so proud of everyone. Those marriages produced 12 grandkids. Each grandchild felt like they were her "favorite" because of how wonderfully she treated them. She always had that special way of quietly touching their hearts. She cherished the time she spent with her grandchildren. They were so precious to her. Now that she is in heaven, we know that she will continue to guide us all, and be an instrumental force in our lives. She always has---and always will----want what is best for us all.

Marilyn taught us all the importance of "family". She affected so many people in so many different ways. Her unconditional love, her compassion, her strength, will continue in all of us.

In summer of 2008, Marilyn and Clyde had their 25th wedding anniversary. They celebrated it by going on an Alaskan cruise. This was a big milestone in their lives, and a well-deserved vacation.

This last Christmas, Marilyn had the opportunity to spend a week in Cedar City with three of her children and eight of her grandchildren, who she only gets to see a few times a year. She was really excited to come visit. She prepared for Christmas as usual, carrying on traditions. She even mailed two huge boxes of gifts prior to leaving, because she knew they wouldn't fit on the plane. She always made sure that everyone was well taken care of on Christmas morning. She was such a giving person, and these memories will be cherished forever.

She has five sisters - Connie, Sandy, Patty, Diane, and Janice. (Otherwise known as "the sisters"). She always spoke very highly of her little sisters, and she loved the fact that they are very close even to this day. They talked on a daily basis or communicate one way or another, regardless of how high their phone bill was, or how many minutes they had left on their cell phone plan. She would always tell me how happy she was to have so much family so close, and how grateful she was for their close friendship. They always looked out for each other, taught each other, and helped each other through personal trials. She loved her sisters so, so much.

Throughout Marilyn’s life, she has affected many people in so many different ways. I am sure that each and every person here today could tell a story about a time when Marilyn has shown love and compassion. We have all learned how to be more kind, caring, and compassionate directly because of Marilyn's example. We will all miss her, and she will be in our memory forever.


Casket Bearers

Jamison Mills

Chris Mills

Mike Terry

Colin Matheson

Mike Osborne

Michael Sullivan

Kenn Fidler


Honorary Casket Bearers

Avery Tutton

Austin Tutton

Andrew Bonholzer

Aidan Bonholzer

Layton Terry

Matt Thompson

Sean Gleason

Devin Gleason

Matt Gleason

Chris Cavalieri

Matt Taylor

Ryan Fidler

Mike Fidler

Kerry Fidler

Bryan Williams

Troy Williams

Kevin Williams

Nick Eakin

Matt T. Graff
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Marilyn A. Bryner
Tributes


We are so sorry and surprised to hear of Marilyn's passing. She will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with Clyde and all the family.

Love,

~~ Warren and Kathleen McClellan - Cedar Hills, UT


I am so saddened and shocked to hear about Marilyn's passing, I wish her family the best and I know she will be missed greatly.

~~ Jessica Copeland, Federal Way, WA


You will always be my sister in my heart. We had such fun when I was in high school and you would come stay with me while mom and dad were on a trip. You were always there for me throughout the years and we have a special bond that will never be broken. Much aloha always Laurrie

~~ Sister-in-law Laurrie Zimmerman - Kihei, Hawaii


This is from the old boyfriend that was at the other end of the bed while she was in the clinic in Tacoma. Please accept my sincere condolences. She was a great blessing and inspiration to many lives including me during our youth, many years ago.

~~ Cousin, Donald Clark - South Jordan, UT


I am saddened to read that Marilyn is gone. Also shocked; Marilyn was full of life, always on the move. For a while we were next-door neighbors. How lucky I was as a single mom to move in next door to a day care! All three of my kids spent a big part of their childhoods with the Bryners, and you all attended Dave's and my wedding. Condolences to Clyde and, lemme see, Julie, Steven, Heidi, David, Katie, Emily, LJ and (big) Sara. Maybe not in order, but from memory.

~~ Cara Zemanek (mom of Little Sarah, Stephen and Lauren) - Des Moines, WA


We were so sad to hear of Marilyn's passing. It leaves such a void in our lives, yet we quickly realize how the treasured memories will fill that void and help you through this difficult period. Out thoughts and prayers are with you as the Lord will bless you with His colpforting spirit.

~~ Clayton and Marion Terry - Brigham City, Utah


Aunt Marilyn was one of those rare people who loved everyone and everyone loved her. She was always our #1 fan and support and offered complete encouragement in our lives and endeavors. The world is a lesser place because of her passing. We love you, Aunt Marilyn.

Parable of Immortality
by Henry Jackson Van Dyke

I am standing by the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength, and I stand and watch until at last she hangs like a peck of white cloud just where the sun and sky come down to mingle with each other. Then someone at my side says, 'There she goes! Gone where? Gone from my sight - that is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side and just as able to bear her load of living freight to the places of destination. Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says, 'There she goes!', there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout: 'Here she comes!'

~~ Jessica Cavalieri, Neice - Seattle, WA


Bonholzer/Bryner family - our thoughts are with you. To me Marilyn alway has been and will always remain, a person about whom I just think and it makes me smile and feel calm. As Andrea's and Jeremy's "back-up" mom during those years of daycare, she let me go to work knowing they were not only looked after, but also loved. I remember her greeting me at the door with cute stories about what my kids had done that day knowing they would be important for me to hear. Ok, so sometimes the stories weren't so cute, but even then I knew she had used appropriate discipline. Knowing the hole that I feel right now reminds me of the huge adjustment you are all going through. We are thinking of you Clyde, Julie, Steve, Emily, Heidi, Julie, Sara, Katie, and David. We just wish we could take away the hurt.

~~ Debby (Hyde) and Bob Hennings - Auburn, Washington


Marilyn was like a second Mom to me, she always welcomed all of us crazy little girls into her home and treated us like we were hers. I have fond memories of after school play dates and even some macaroni and cheese lunches she would make for Julie and I when I walked home for lunch with her. She was always making sure that we girls were having fun and being safe and I know we drove her crazy at times! I know she is looking down from Heaven with much pride, joy and love for her family. My family and I have you all in our prayers.

~~ Gina Gilmore Roybal – No Location Given


Marilyn was a rock that many turned to. No doubt partly because she was the oldest, and often, the wisest.

I have so many great memories of times with Marilyn and her family stretching back to Prosser. So many memories of all those family events that brought us together. The birthday parties, the holidays, the summer weekend getaways in Yakima, the camping trips at Ocean Shores, the holiday weekends in Seaside, that rendezvous in Vegas, the cruise, and the visits she and her family made to our homes in Missoula, MT and later Bend, OR. Then of course all those years in Federal Way, and those occasional private conversations between the two of us.

Marilyn left us so suddenly and without any warning. Just another reminder of how fragile life is and how we should never take our time together, nor our relationships ever for granted. Just like Marilyn was quoted as saying by her son Steve, "Never take this life for granted."

She has left behind a legacy of children and grand children that will -- I’m sure -- bring honor to her name and her influence will be felt for generations to come. What more could any of us ask for?

I miss her.

~~ Rick Gleason, brother-in-law283
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Spouses
Birth Date19 Sep 1947101
Birth PlaceAberdeen, Grays Harbor Co., WA, USA
Residence Date19837
Residence PlaceKent, King Co., WA, USA
Residence MemoIn a trailer court, where the Horizon Airlines Headquarters building is now located.
Death Date25 Jun 1983 Age: 35
Death PlaceRitzville, Adams Co., WA, USA
Burial Date29 Jun 1983
Burial PlaceFernhill Cemetery, Anacortes, Skagit Co., WA, USA
Soc. Sec. #537-42-0755, issued in Washington state286
OccupationTheatre Manager, Self-employed Propane Dealer287
Cause of DeathAuto Accident
MotherLorraine Violet ROHL (1928-2008)
Misc. Notes

Obituary

ANACORTES -- James R. Bonholzer Jr., 35, of Federal Way, died Saturday in Ritzville.

Mr. Bonholzer was born Sept. 19, 1947, in Aberdeen, to Lorraine and James Bonholzer. On June 21, 1968, he married Marilyn Avery in Federal Way. He was a self-employed propane dealer and a former resident of Yakima.

Survivors include his wife, Marilyn, of Federal Way; three children, Julie, Steven and Heidi, all at home; his parents, James and Lorraine Bonholzer of La Conner; and a sister, Laurie Zimmerman of Lynwood [sic].

Graveside services were held Tuesday at 2 p.m. at the Fernhill Cemetery in Anacortes.
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Served in the U.S. Army and stationed in Alaska.
Resident Yakima, Yakima, WA in mid 1970’s to early 1980’s.
Resident Kent, King, WA at the time of his death. 288
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One of the most difficult experiences of our married life was the sudden loss of our brother-in-law Jim Bonholzer. Jim was married to my wife Patty's oldest sister Marilyn.

Early in the morning at about 5:20 a.m. on Saturday, June 25, 1983 Jim was driving alone from Yakima to Spokane, Washington when he apparently lost control of his car on Interstate 90 near the Fish Trap exit and the city of Sprague. The car rolled a number of times and, according to the accident report, he died instantly from a broken neck. Jim was just 35 years old.

It was a dreadful shock for all of us. Only a week before we had spent an enjoyable Father's Day weekend with the family, Jim among them. Part of the time was spent at Marilyn's home in Federal Way for a family picnic. I'll never forget leaving there. Jim had fallen asleep on the couch and I never had the opportunity to say "good-bye … thanks … see you later."

I remember many fun and happy experiences with Jim. He and I spent a lot of time together during our many visits to Washington state. We had many “heart to heart” talks. im had a fun personality and was well liked by all who knew him. It's never been the same without him. Family gatherings were never quite as they were with Jim no longer among us. I often think about him and I'll always remember his saying, "I am a unique kind of a guy." He was.

Jim would have been very proud of his children, Julie, Steven, and Heidi and their families. I often think of all the things he has missed over the many years he’s been gone. It saddens me to know he has not been here in person to share these priceless moments with those of his loved-ones. I’m sure however he is proud of his children and the good adults they have all become. 3
Family ID25
Marr Date21 Jun 1968284
Marr PlaceFederal Way, King Co., WA, USA
Reside Date1968289
Reside PlaceFederal Way, King Co., WA, USA
Reside MemoApartment complex on 312th?
Reside Date1976289
Reside PlaceProsser, Yakima Co., WA, USA
Reside Date1980’s289
Reside PlaceYakima, Yakima Co., WA, USA
Reside MemoEarly 80’s
Misc. Notes
1983 - Residence 30146 16th Ave. SW, Federal Way, WA 98003, phone: 946-0929. Federal Way First Ward.5
ChildrenJulie (1969-)
 Heidi (1975-)
Birth Date7 Mar 1950 Age: 67
OccupationU.S. Postal Service Worker, Bulk Plant, Federal Way, WA290
Misc. Notes
Resident of Gig Harbor, WA in December 2010.291
Family ID242
Marr Date20 Aug 1983281
Marr PlaceBellevue, King Co., WA, USA
Reside Date1983
Reside PlaceFederal Way, King Co., WA, USA
Misc. Notes
When Clyde and Marilyn were married they combined his five children with her three and together raised a family of eight.292
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1984 - Residence 28928 12th So. Federal Way, WA 98003, phone: 941-2144. Federal Way First Ward.

1985-1987 - Residence 1121 So. 299th Pl Federal Way, WA 98003, phone: 941-2144. Federal Way First Ward.

1989-1994 - Residence 30225 8th Ave. So Federal Way, WA 98003, phone: 941-2144. Federal Way First Ward.5
Last Modified 16 Jan 2016Created 17 May 2017 Rick Gleason - ricksgenealogy@gmail.com